FYI, what I am about to say in this article is not directed at fashion publishing, advertising, etc., this article is aimed directly at personal style bloggers who Photoshop their images. Not the photographers they may work with (those photos are products of the photographer, not the model(s), and this does not apply), but the photos they took themselves, or had enlisted the help of a friend or significant other, blah blah blah..
Girls, seriously, stop Photoshopping yourselves to look like a fashion model clone in every single photo you post online.
When it comes to personal style blogging, you are sharing your personal style. This includes the dilemmas of bad skin days, and fat days, and my-hair-hates-me days, etc. Don’t tell me you don’t have those days, because everyone has them. These are very ‘human’ things, and are also things your readers can relate to.
I’ll be the first to tell you- I’m suffering from a huge breakout at the moment. Yes, I have skin problems. But you won’t see me Photoshopping my imperfections out of my photos, especially when I’m keeping a diary of my life- an acne breakout is a part of my life… This is a small example.
I’ve heard of girls who not only routinely edit their skin and hair, but also make themselves look thinner– stomach, thighs, etc. And I’m appalled.
Style blogging isn’t about changing your image to look like a high fashion model, but rather, showing off who you really are, the person that people admire (even if you don’t see it right now). Not everyone is going to like their body 100%, but the old adage is true- it really is what’s on the inside that matters. It does take some time for people to accept this, generally speaking, but it’s a necessary realization.
I think, as a style blogger, it’s more about creation of character, much as an actor would, but the character is your actual self. You can be anything you want to be, as long as you have the faith in yourself and your means. We all have our little quirks and imperfections, and it’s up to us to accept them as a part of who we are, and still go on, being the best we can be.
And if you’re so worried about being the “perfect blogger” to appeal to brands, think again-
Look at me- pretty much everything about me goes against what society views as ‘beautiful’– I have many tattoos and piercings, a masculine haircut, I cuss like a sailor, make terrible [terribly awesome?] sounds with my keyboard and guitar, and you’re more likely to see me in black skate sneakers than high heels. And yet, somehow, the vast majority of people view me as beautiful. And I’m doing just fine as far as brand partnerships go, BTW…
Why is this?
I don’t give a shit. That’s it. I don’t care what people think about me, or how I look, or what I do. I know I’m doing what I need to be doing right now, and that’s what matters. It’s about confidence and not doing what society mindlessly tells you to do, when your gut is telling you what’s really right for you.
I don’t take myself, or life, too seriously.
Be yourself, and don’t be ashamed of who you are. If you are doing good things and always being honest [with yourself, as well as others], you have nothing to feel guilty about. Stop beating yourself up, and be the best ‘you’ you can be! It doesn’t matter what you look like- don’t hide yourself away from the world!